God Has Purpose, Even Through Loss


It was the last day of school before spring break during freshman year of high school. My best friend and I were fighting that day over something that seemed catastrophic at the time. I stood outside the school in my over-sized puffy blue jacket and talked with friends.

Courtney was reassuring me that everything would be okay between myself and our mutual friend. She was becoming a great confidant and I was thankful for her kindness. There was something almost “magical” about her charisma and confidence.

“I’ll call you when I get back from Colorado,” said Courtney. “Everything is gonna be okay, Mar-Mar.” I had an eerie feeling as I watched her walk away; which was unknowingly the last time I would see her on earth.

A few days later, I made a call to my best friend to apologize for whatever reason we were fighting. She answered the phone in tears and told me that Courtney was killed in a car accident. I trembled and hung up the phone. My parents drove me over to their house and we all tried to process this tragedy.

Courtney was traveling across the country with family and there was bad weather. The car lost control, crossed the median and was struck by an oncoming semi-truck. We were told that Courtney (15) was killed on impact. Her youngest brother (9) was facing life-threatening injuries in the hospital and passed away the next day.

This was the first time that most of us were faced with a personal loss and we were only 15 years old. A group of friends gathered almost every day to make phone calls and mourn the loss. We were tormented and confused by the emotions and pain of death at such a young age. Though her death was tragic and untimely, it was not without purpose.

Courtney was a Christian. She was the only person that I knew in public school to talk about Jesus.

The double funeral was extremely difficult for all who attended. It was standing room only and the line during visitation went out the door. These children were loved by many.

It was during the funeral service that my own family learned about Jesus. The pastor explained that Courtney and her brother fell asleep in the backseat of the car, and then the Lord wrapped His loving arms around them and carried them home to Heaven. It was then that my Mom realized she did not want to live eternity without Jesus and gave her life to God.

We have all gone on to be servants for Christ and use our gifts for the Lord. It makes me wonder.. where would our lives be without the message that we heard at the funeral?

How has God changed your life?

I think of Courtney and her family every year around Easter time. I do miss her and wonder what our friendship would be like today.

Knowing her faith was strong gives me great comfort to know I will see her again someday. It’s going to be the hug of all hugs when I see her in heaven and I can’t wait.

I remember her fondly and focus on the good memories. Even 14 years later it hurts to remember the loss of a friend, but I am so thankful for what the Lord taught me through it.

John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (NIV)

God loves us unconditionally and He wants us to spend eternity with Him in Heaven. Easter is the best time to get acquainted with God’s Son. I hope and pray that we all have a blessed Holy Week!


Copyright 2013 Words By Mara. All rights reserved.

6 thoughts on “God Has Purpose, Even Through Loss



  2. Thanks Mara. I was one of the pastors at the funeral of Courtney and Micah, I read your blog on Easter Sunday at Spring Creek Church and we all were strengthened and encouraged.


  3. I remember the funeral was on a rainy day. Yet once we all sat down for the service to begin, a ray of sunshine casted over the caskets and the Pastor said it was no coincidence that the sun chose to come out at that moment. It was a moment that I think of often. I remember getting the phone call on the day we all found out and how we all rushed to be with each other. It was a sad and difficult time for us, but we will forever remember those that got us through that time and we will always share a special bond with one another. Thanks for the beautiful remembrance of a friend that was taken from us way too soon.


    • Beautifully said, Jennifer. I think there will always be a bond between those of us that went through this loss and grief together. You all hold a special place in my heart. Thank you for sharing your memory of that day. God bless you – hope you are doing well old friend! 🙂


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