The Winning Trials in Life


Do you ever wonder what your life might be like if you hadn’t gone through various trials? Did that particular challenge completely reshape your future by opening your eyes to unfavorable traits or behaviors? Did you vow to turn your life around after surviving those difficult moments?

The truth is… some people will learn and others will not.

I am frequently asked, by colleagues and loved ones, how I’m able to make it through each day with chronic pain. People often forget that living with daily pain is challenging at times, but still not the greatest trial of my life thus far.

In my short 33 years on earth, I’ve been through my fair share of trials. Everything has shaped me into the person that I am today. And though each trial was difficult in itself, I am all the better after going through them.

Strength is not determined by the amount of trials, but the way you react while going through them.

At the young age of 21, I made a lot of really bad choices. Finally, the Lord got my attention when I survived a traumatic brain injury from a motorcycle accident in 2005.

The extent of my injuries were 2 skull fractures (1 above my left ear and 1 under my right eye), a perforated ear drum, torn shoulder ligaments and rotator cuff, temporary facial paralysis, permanent inner and middle ear damage, road rash, and a severe concussion – otherwise known as a TBI.

But… I walked away with all my fingers, all my toes, and all my limbs. It didn’t matter how awful my injuries were, because I was grateful just to be alive. You can read more about my story in a previous post.

It was, nonetheless, one of the most difficult things I’ve had to go through. There was never really a question about how I was going to handle my recovery, so I just carried on with life. Looking back, there are certainly a lot of things that I would have done differently – like seek the guidance of a therapist to deal with survivors guilt, post-traumatic stress, and panic attacks.

11 years later, I am a different person and have gone through many other trials since then. After surviving each and every trial, I have learned to…

  1. Stop and breathe.
  2. Remember that this is only temporary.
  3. Not say something that I’ll regret.
  4. Be thankful for all the little positives.
  5. Journal my feelings.

As time goes on, your heart and body heals. The trial will always be a difficult memory, but you are better for going through it.

There are pieces of my past that still hurt to think about, but I choose to remember the strength and love that carried me through it.

One of my favorite passages from the bible is Isaiah 48:10 (ESV), “Behold, I have refined you, but not as silver; I have tried you in the furnace of affliction.”

If you are going through a hard time right now, please do not give up! Remember that you will be stronger in the end.


*Above image is original and edited with Adobe. Below image taken from David Wolfe via Facebook.
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